The Politics of Who’s Zoomin’ Who

August 13, 2009

My mother-in-law and I continue to negotiate space, privacy and communication.  A brief list:

— When we came back from the honeymoon the dog food bin was no longer in the bathroom. When I inquired about it, I was told that it was in the garage because the father-in-law did not want it in the bathroom. She told me where she keeps his tin of food in the kitchen. I moved the dog food bin into our second room without telling her.

— This morning my mother-in-law tapped her fingernails against the slightly open door to our room in the basement and said, “Good morning, How are you?” I said that I was fine, but did not get up to greet her. I heard her stay on the other side of the door. She asked me what I was doing. I told her I was folding laundry. (I was Facebooking). She started to tell me what she was doing today. I got up to greet her. By the time I made it to the door, she was saying goodbye  and walked in the garage.

— When I walked into the kitchen tonight, my wife and mother-in-law told me good naturedly that we had to have a house meeting. I agreed. My wife then proceeded to list all of the rules regarding use of the laundry facilities that my mother-in-law did not share with me the day before when I asked her how I should do laundry.

In case you ever move into her basement and need to use her laundry facilities, you cannout leave clothes in the washer overnight. The washer can not be run if there is no one home because it floods, nor can the dryer be run when no one is home because it can start a fire.

It’s like the Old Testament in her laundry room.


One Response to “The Politics of Who’s Zoomin’ Who”

  1. lesboparentstobe said

    Ok, I know you wrote this MONTHS ago, but I just started reading your blog and just had to tell you that my mother (who I love dearly but who is also totally insane) has the same crazy fears about laundry! Seriously. Also no wet towels hung over the back of wooden chairs because it warps the wood. The list goes on.

    Can’t wait to read the rest of your blog. Oh, and I’m a social worker too 🙂

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: